There are so many songs that sing about following your heart.
5 are running through my head as I type this out... unfortunately they are all so dang catchy!
This might be new to you, but our hearts (and when I say hearts I really mean emotions) are completely fickle and change all the time depending on circumstance or the mood we are in that day or season of life.
One day, you completely LOVE this one outfit, but the next time you put it on you think you look like an outcast and much change immediately!
Our feelings cannot be trusted!
My favorite line:
"I love you, but not IN love with you"
WARNING, THIS IS A BLANKET STATEMENT: there are always exceptions, and specific cases
this line isn't really my favorite, that was sarcasm.
I have to laugh when people say that because what they are really saying is... "I'm CHOOSING to not love you anymore"
Love is a choice. It involves sacrifice and looking past where that person is NOW and see them where God does, where they could be.
The way we feel cannot be the determining factor in our decision making.
Being in a state of comfort is where we often get caught! Whether it is the mindset we have, the job position we settle for, the romantic relationship we have or the friends we chose... they should all be pushing you and making you get closer to God, and in return, you grow and improve.
GIRLS ESPECIALLY: we get stuck in the emotional side!
This is how we were wired and created by God. We represent a specific side of Him, and that side so happens to be emotional and softer. Guys are more practical and firm, that is OK!
Let's set up the situation shall we?
You have been in this relationship for 3 years, y'all know each other very well. Have been through lots of ups and downs, and they were always there for you (possibly when it was convenient for them). You want to go to the next level, marriage, but they are avoiding it. What do you do?
Girls: your friends say "OOOHHH girl he is cheatin' on you. Betta kick him to the curb!"
Guys: your bros say "Dude, that's rough... Hey can you pass the chips?!"
Now what? What is your heart telling you? Stay with them because you're COMFORTABLE? Or dump them, go through the process of moving on, and starting over with someone else.
If it were a t.v. show, you would have yelled DUMP HIM, or PASS THE CHIPS!
But everything changes when it is OUR emotions involved.
GIRLS (mainly my teen girls that I love so dearly): It is OK to have a standard and to find guys that don't live up to those standards. They aren't the scum of the earth just because they don't play guitar, strive to eat gluten free, and can whip anything up in the kitchen. (you're laughing, but we have these crazy things on our husband lists!) Let's figure out what WE NEED! You tend to me softer spoken, so maybe someone who is more outgoing is a good balance for you... things like that. It's fine to have wants, but make sure his origami skills won't be the determining factor of y'alls marriage.
GUYS: HAVE STANDARDS! Don't let the pretty pictures on her profile be what you chase. Know the kind of wife you need/want. Make a list! And also make a list of the kind of husband you want to be for her! Your role is more important that you realize, so it is very important for you to be stable and solid! YOU. ARE. VALUABLE.
For future reference, do not follow your heart! Emotions are good and we need them in our lives to spice things up, but they cant make our decisions in life!
Take a step back, evaluate what is going on, pray about it. THEN make your decision.
-Lizzy
5 are running through my head as I type this out... unfortunately they are all so dang catchy!
This might be new to you, but our hearts (and when I say hearts I really mean emotions) are completely fickle and change all the time depending on circumstance or the mood we are in that day or season of life.
One day, you completely LOVE this one outfit, but the next time you put it on you think you look like an outcast and much change immediately!
Our feelings cannot be trusted!
My favorite line:
"I love you, but not IN love with you"
WARNING, THIS IS A BLANKET STATEMENT: there are always exceptions, and specific cases
this line isn't really my favorite, that was sarcasm.
I have to laugh when people say that because what they are really saying is... "I'm CHOOSING to not love you anymore"
Love is a choice. It involves sacrifice and looking past where that person is NOW and see them where God does, where they could be.
The way we feel cannot be the determining factor in our decision making.
Being in a state of comfort is where we often get caught! Whether it is the mindset we have, the job position we settle for, the romantic relationship we have or the friends we chose... they should all be pushing you and making you get closer to God, and in return, you grow and improve.
GIRLS ESPECIALLY: we get stuck in the emotional side!
This is how we were wired and created by God. We represent a specific side of Him, and that side so happens to be emotional and softer. Guys are more practical and firm, that is OK!
Let's set up the situation shall we?
You have been in this relationship for 3 years, y'all know each other very well. Have been through lots of ups and downs, and they were always there for you (possibly when it was convenient for them). You want to go to the next level, marriage, but they are avoiding it. What do you do?
Girls: your friends say "OOOHHH girl he is cheatin' on you. Betta kick him to the curb!"
Guys: your bros say "Dude, that's rough... Hey can you pass the chips?!"
Now what? What is your heart telling you? Stay with them because you're COMFORTABLE? Or dump them, go through the process of moving on, and starting over with someone else.
If it were a t.v. show, you would have yelled DUMP HIM, or PASS THE CHIPS!
But everything changes when it is OUR emotions involved.
GIRLS (mainly my teen girls that I love so dearly): It is OK to have a standard and to find guys that don't live up to those standards. They aren't the scum of the earth just because they don't play guitar, strive to eat gluten free, and can whip anything up in the kitchen. (you're laughing, but we have these crazy things on our husband lists!) Let's figure out what WE NEED! You tend to me softer spoken, so maybe someone who is more outgoing is a good balance for you... things like that. It's fine to have wants, but make sure his origami skills won't be the determining factor of y'alls marriage.
GUYS: HAVE STANDARDS! Don't let the pretty pictures on her profile be what you chase. Know the kind of wife you need/want. Make a list! And also make a list of the kind of husband you want to be for her! Your role is more important that you realize, so it is very important for you to be stable and solid! YOU. ARE. VALUABLE.
For future reference, do not follow your heart! Emotions are good and we need them in our lives to spice things up, but they cant make our decisions in life!
Take a step back, evaluate what is going on, pray about it. THEN make your decision.
-Lizzy